What Men Should Do on a First Date

With popular dating apps in Singapore like Tinder and Coffee Meets Bagel, it’s becoming very easy to get a date. But in those apps, you won’t get to know the person physically. So, you arrange to meet and then comes the all-important, yet nerve-wracking ‘first date’. Here then are some things you should do to leave a good impression with your date.

Dress comfortably
Of course, the preparation before the date is essential. Wear clothes you’re comfortable with and you know look good on you so that you won’t have unnecessary concerns. For instance, don’t do a hairstyle just because its trendy. You’ll face a huge problem if it doesn’t look good on you. Considering it’s the first date, there should be no problem dressing casually and being yourself.

Pick a comfortable place
When planning for a date, try to pick a place that provides a comfortable atmosphere, both for you and your date. Go take a stroll at the Henderson Waves, or maybe even listen to some music at the Esplanade Outdoor Theatre. Make sure it’s a place where she can also feel safe.

Don’t be late
Being on time is already a given, not just in dating. When you get there early, you’ll be able to prepare yourself and shake off any feelings of nervousness. Plus, it’s not very ideal to get someone waiting, they might eventually think that they’re wasting their time expecting you.

Be honest
Be honest with yourself and don’t try to pretend just so your date will like you. If you’re faking things, it will most likely come out unnatural, hence you’re only playing yourself. Likewise, if you’re having a lot of fun, don’t hesitate to say it. Your date will appreciate it since you’re being truthful enjoying their company.

Manners maketh man
When its pouring, hold an umbrella up for her, open doors for her, maybe even pick her up from her place if you can. Doing small acts of chivalry will definitely impress your date, even if you’d think its corny and old school. To put it simply, be a gentleman.

Avoid using your phone
Using your phone is a big no-no when having a date. If the girl is talking and you’re on your phone, it only shows that you don’t pay attention to her. Not only does it show that you’re uninterested, it also gives her the impression that you won’t take things seriously. Of course, this doesn’t mean you should ignore a call from your mother or boss. Simply remember to be courteous.

End the date properly
At the end of the date, make sure to say you’ve had a good time. But, pointing back to being honest, you don’t necessarily have to say this. If you didn’t really get to click with your date, don’t immediately say it negatively. Instead, be polite and still thank her for meeting you.

5 Subtle Ways Women Are Sabotaging Their Love Lives

You shouldn’t completely blame yourself for being single, although your actions can play a part in all of this. You may not realize it yet, but you might actually be practising or doing some behaviours that are decreasing your chances of finding love. To get a better understanding of these things, here are five key behaviours that might be subtly sabotaging your luck at love.


  1. Being Stuck in the Past. Believing that the man you dated in the past was ‘the one’ will only keep you from meeting someone better and new. So as much as possible, stop thinking, talking or even dreaming about your past love. If you were meant to be with the person from your past, you’d still be with him until now. Let that thought sink in, and follow it up with the idea that God or any divine force you believe in is never wrong in making you feel that it’s time to let go of the past.


  1. Dating One Person Only. Most women do monogamy in dating by default. They find it fruitless to meet another potential date until they’re forced to do so, which is actually wrong. Dating is comparable to a buffet: You shouldn’t be afraid to taste a little of everything before settling on your favourite dish. So as early as now, ditch that one-man date rule that you’re practising and start dating a good number of men until you find the right guy for you.


  1. Avoiding Socialization. As they age, adults are less likely to make new friends and that’s what decreases their chances of finding the right guy. In order to meet the right person – or the potential love of your life – you need to find and join the right social circles. Who knows, your ‘the one’ might be a friend of a friend. So don’t be afraid to socialize with new people by volunteering in or joining organizations. Aside from increasing your chances of meeting a potential date, you’ll also be able to enrich your life.


  1. Hanging with a Group. Socialization is an important element in meeting a potential date through friends, but you can also match-make yourself by spending some time alone. Remember that men find it easier to speak to a woman when she’s alone.  So find and spend some time in a somewhat busy place like a park, a café, or your local Starbucks to invite love in your life. You’ll be surprise as to how this intentional act can do wonders for your love life.


  1. Doubting His Existence. One of the biggest saboteur when it comes to finding love is doubt. If you don’t believe that you’ll find the right for you, then it’s unlikely that you’ll ever find him. So instead of doubting your luck in love, actively pursue men that have similar qualities with the guy you want to date by making yourself physically present on some of the places where your potential guy is most likely to be hanging around.

If in doubt, don’t be afraid to put in some effort to attract the love you deserve. By doing nothing, you’re simply keeping yourself single. So make a concerted effort to attract the right man, and eventually, you will.

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6 Adventurous Date Ideas Your Guy Will Enjoy

Movie and dinner dates are great, but sometimes you just need to spice things up by trying something new and exciting. So get those bodies moving now by trying out any of these five daring dates that your guy will definitely enjoy.


  1. Cave Exploration. You’ll need to a little driving to find a good cave, but once you find one, you’ll definitely have a blast exploring it. If possible, pay a tour guide to show you around the cave, as well as to avoid getting hurt or lost during your exploration. Plus, your guide will also be able to share some interesting facts about the things you’ll be seeing inside the cave. With this, not only will your date be fun, it’ll also serve as a great learning experience.


  1. Skydiving. If you’re in for some adrenaline rush, then schedule a day where you can go skydiving together. If you’re scared of heights, this is a great way to face your fears with your significant other. Just remember to go to a reputable location to ensure your safety. Once you’re done, you can celebrate by taking a trip to get your favourite ice cream.


  1. Hot Air Balloon Rides. It’s time to finally see the world in a different perspective. Take a hot air balloon ride and once you’re up in the sky, you’ll see that it’s way more relaxing than terrifying. Well, how could you be scared if you’re focusing on such a beautiful scenery, right? Not only will this let you spend some quality time together, you’ll also be able to appreciate the world in an entirely different way.


  1. Jet Skiing. Aside from the sky, you can also find adventure in the water with jet skiing. Love the ocean? Try signing up for some scuba diving lessons to see tons of beautiful creatures under the sea. Not a really good swimmer? You can always try parasailing or jet skiing. You don’t need to do much on these activities, so there’s really nothing to be scared of.


  1. Shooting Range. If your guy has always dreamed of becoming a male lead in an action movie, then he’ll definitely have some fun at the shooting range. You’ll both be aiming at inanimate objects, so rest assured that no animals will be harmed. It’s also a great way to let off some steam. Plus, learning how to shoot will definitely come in handy if you’re ever placed in danger in the future.


  1. Amusement Parks. Not in the mood to try out anything too intense? Then the amusement park is your best option. There are lots of roller coasters and other riders that’ll surely give you the right adrenaline rush that you need, so your trip certainly won’t be a waste.

Stepping out of your comfort zone every once in a while is actually fun. So instead of always settling for a movie or dinner date, try doing any of the aforementioned date ideas and you’ll definitely come home with lots of stories to tell.


Romantic Rejection Management Tips Every Girl Should Know

We’ve all experienced having a crush on a guy who doesn’t like us back, or a fling that just fizzled into nothingness. Yes, it’s easy to feel quite let-down when the person you like doesn’t like you back, but remember, it’s not the end of the world. In fact, there are some little and simple tricks that you can do to make the rejection a little easier for you.


  1. Don’t Take the Rejection Personally. It may seem crazy, but getting rejected actually has a little thing to do with you, and much more with where the other person is in his life. Perhaps, he’s still not be over his ex, or he’s interested in someone else. Understand that most of the time, the rejection isn’t just about you. It’s about them too.
  1. Stop Thinking About the ‘What-Ifs”. Yes, you can totally beat yourself up to thinking as to why he’s not interested in dating you, but remember, that won’t get you anywhere. It won’t help in improving your relationship with the other person, it’ll only give you more things to fixate on. Remember, you can’t change what has already happened and the only thing that’s left for you to do is to learn to accept it.
  1. Don’t see it as a Challenge to Prove Yourself to Them. If he’s really the right guy for you, he’ll see just how great you are without you having to constantly prove it to him. If he rejects you, understand that he might not be properly equipped to see just how great of a person you are and just move on with your life.


  1. Spend Time With Those Who Knows Your Worth. Fixating on the one you never had, or the one that got away, is surely the best way to destroy your self-esteem and put yourself into the black hole of despair and depression. Doesn’t sound like a pretty fun place to be, right? So why not spend your time and energy on your family and friends who perfectly knows your worth, instead of sulking over the guy who rejected you. That’s a pretty good alternative, right?

Being rejected by the person you like is no fun at all. However, you can’t just be sulking on that rejection forever. Remember, you have a life to live, so stop feeling depressed now, move on, and be happy again. Who knows, you might finally find Mr. Right this time around.Sad-depressed-stressed-young-woman-by-Andrea-Rose-Creative-Commons

What to Avoid When Dating Online

Many people are relying online to meet their lifetime partners. There is nothing wrong with that but you should be wary when you consider online dating. There are serious people but there are bogus people who are only bent to take advantage on you. It is important that you know how to spot one.


Here are some things that you can do to protect yourself from people who will take advantage of you online:


  • Committing easily: You should know that committing easily will further expose you if someone will take advantage of you. To be safe, you should know that person. Time is of great essence but it can be your downfall. Take things slowly and take time knowing her/him before you commit.
  • Giving money: You will know if he/she is bent on taking advantage if he/she is constantly asking for money. There is nothing wrong to help but you do not ask money to someone you just know, right? If he/she is asking money, be firm to say no.
  • Meeting alone: If you are the girl and you decide to meet, you should never meet him alone even if you think you’ve known him all your life. There is a possibility that he deceived you. You should ask your friend to accompany you.
  • Giving personal information: If it is your first meeting, never give your personal information especially your address and your bank information. He/she may rob you of your identity without you knowing.

It is better to be cautious because not all people are nice, kind and honest. If you are looking for love, it is better to look near. Do not look farther. Good luck!