Tips to Remember When Setting Goals for Self-Improvement

When it comes to self-improvement, there are a lot of things we can do to make sure we succeed. One of the most common and most effective is actually setting goals for yourself. Unfortunately, a lot of people think that setting goals and following them is a hassle. But you should know that this is exactly why it can boost your progress! So, without further ado, here are some tips you should know when you set goals for self-improvement.

Motivation is an essential driving factor

When we set goals, it’s usually for specific aspects of life like success at work, becoming healthier, getting high grades, and etc. And among all these, one factor that can determine if we succeed or fail is motivation. How motivated are you to change your lifestyle? How motivated are you to succeed? Motivation and willpower will be very important things to consider once you decide on your goals.

Take note of your whys

In connection to the point above, your motivation will highly depend on your reasons for self-improvement. If not, your whys will exactly be your motivation. One way or another they will dictate how motivated you are to change, how willing you are to monitor your progress, and if you have enough determination to succeed. This is why when you’re setting goals, you should consider the whys as your guidelines.

Lean on the positive

One common mistake we make when writing down our goals is that we use a negative tone. We usually write, “I will stop smoking” or “I will stop eating junk foods” For one, these are too broad. And two, the tone itself sounds like it’s more of a chore than a goal. Instead, what you can do is simply to focus on more positive phrasing. For example, you could write, “If I get the urge to smoke, I will write three positive things I’ve experienced today instead”. You’ll be surprised at how effective this actually is, so just try it!

Always pay attention to the process and not the outcome

Logically, you’ll know if you achieve a goal by looking at the outcome. But when you’re starting from scratch and still planning out those goals, it will be best not to pay attention to the end result at all. Focusing on the steps you take will actually feel much more rewarding. For example, you’re ordered to walk to a certain point. As you walk and walk and walk, the end-destination still looks so far away. But then you look back and you’ll see how far you’ve gone which helps you push further. This is the magic of focusing on the process and not the outcome.

How to Improve Your Charisma

Charisma is a person’s ability to draw and influence others around him/her. A charismatic person appears confident in communication while keeping humble and selfless. Here, then, are some ways for you to develop your charisma. Who knows, you might be the next prime minister of Singapore.

Pay full attention
Having incredible charisma doesn’t always mean you always have to do the talking. It all starts when you listen attentively and pay full attention to others who are speaking to you. This is a good start because paying attention to what others are saying sends a message that you are present in that conversation and not just showing off.

Practice eye contact
Constantly shifting your gaze and not looking others in the eye simply shows that you’re nervous or uninterested. Maintaining eye contact is crucial in communicating your confidence and charisma. One way to practice holding eye contact is to simply talk and look at yourself in the mirror. This may seem awkward but it serves as good practice. When your speaking to someone, you can also try to focus on the color of their eyes as practice.

Use body language
Body language can help a good speaker but also betray a bad one. If you have a voice that’s loud and clear but your stiff and move your body in a reserved way, you might confuse others and end up becoming boring. A charismatic person will use body language to effectively emphasize the message and influence how the listeners feel.

Tell stories
Stories, if timed right and used effectively, can be utilized to attract attention and stir emotion. When you tell a story, you’re giving the people something that they will typically be able to relate to. If you have a story that fits the occasion perfectly, go ahead and share it. Just remember to not go overboard and hog all the attention. Also, make sure it’s not a made-up story, this will do you more harm than good.

Stay positive
Obviously, other people want to stay around those who are entertaining and easy to be around. Additionally, staying positive keeps you in a good mood even at trying times. Others will notice this easily and will turn to you for positivity. Simply remembering to smile is a great way to start. Smiling makes you look kind and more approachable.

Learn from others
You already have your own opinions, perspectives, your own knowledge. And those will not teach you much anymore because you already know them. But there will always be people who know something that you don’t. Accordingly, be open to others’ opinions and perspectives. You’ll be able to learn a lot by simply being open-minded and not staying on a pedestal above everybody else.

The Habits of Happy People

You feel sorrow, grief, exhaustion and sadness all the time so you vent it to other people. If you are like this, you will be unhappy for the rest of your life. It is normal to feel sorrow, grief, exhaustion and sadness but what is not normal is letting it take over your life completely. You can change that. You can be happy.


According to Elbert Hubbard, Happiness is a habit and so it should be cultivated. If you see a happy person, it is as if the energy will be transferred to you. That is the power of a happy disposition. Many people do not consider the importance of happiness. They perform their tasks every day without enjoying things. Part of mental and emotional health is to be happy. If you want to be happy, here are some habits that you need to practice:

  • Care for yourself: You have to take care of yourself from your physical health to your mental and emotional health. If you are healthy, you can do things that makes you happy. You should get regular medical check-ups to be sure.
  • Appreciate life: Sometimes you tend to ignore simple things like appreciating the sun or your mother. You should rediscover that child-like sense of wonder. Children are fascinated with things thus the enthusiasm. Rediscover that and you will appreciate every minute you have.


  • Choose your friends wisely: The adage “tell me who your friends are and I’ll tell you who you are” is very true. When you surround yourself with unhappy people, you will be unhappy. If you surround yourself with positive and happy people, it will be contagious.
  • Be considerate: Being considerate is also the key to happiness. You have to accept others. We are not the same after all. If you accept and respect others, the world will be more peaceful and vibrant. Touch the people with your generous and kind nature.
  • Laugh: You do not need to laugh at someone to be happy. You can laugh at yourself and be happy. Sometimes you need a good laugh to jumpstart your day. Laughing is contagious and it can brighten the mood of those who hear it.
  • Invest in your relationships: No one is an island. Relationships will enliven you. You should exert effort every day to tell your loved ones that they are loved. Sometimes showing it is different from saying it. Spend time with your friends and family.

These are just things that you can consider. At the end of the day, it will be up to you. Think that happiness is a choice. You are to blame if you hold the feelings of sadness and sorrowful for a long time. Being happy will not cost you anything. In fact, it can yield good benefits at the end of the day.